My Unorthodox Life star Julia Haart has revealed her ex-husband Yosef Hendler said their 5-year-old daughter can’t play sports in case her outfits are sexualised.
Designer and entrepreneur Haart, now 50, last year starred in the popular Netflix series, which focused on her rise in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious home at 42.
Now Haart – who is currently embroiled in a nasty divorce from her second husband and Elite World Group CEO Silvio Scaglia – has shared more intimate details of her journey through her recently released memoir Brazen, which was released on Tuesday. .
Candid: My Unorthodox Life star Julia Haart has revealed her ex-husband Yosef Hendler said their five-year-old daughter can’t play sports in case her outfits are sexualized
Promoting the book on This Morning on Thursday, she detailed parts of her daughter Miriam’s upbringing and said she was starting to wonder why she couldn’t play sports.
She explained that when her daughter started asking questions about such things, she finally decided to leave the family and her strict religious life.
She said: ‘I should have left 20 years earlier. It was when my daughter Miriam turned five and started voicing the questions I had all my life.
“She started asking questions and said ‘I’d like to play sports’ and my ex would say it’s not modest to wear a skirt and if a man sees you he might have some kind of sexual reaction to it. so you can’t play sports!’
Tough: Promoting the book on Thursday this morning, she detailed parts of her daughter Miriam’s upbringing and said she had started to wonder why she couldn’t play sports (pictured with Miriam in 2021 )
“And my five-year-old ‘oh why am I responsible for his sins.’ She started asking all the questions I had been afraid to ask my whole life.
Speaking further about the book and her now feminist beliefs, she said: “It’s basically the story of my journey. It’s really all the mess, the confusion, the details. The book is the whole story.
“All my life, I’ve told myself that my intellect is no less for a man. I had all these questions. I had all this guilt for even thinking that.
Fame: Designer and entrepreneur Haart, now 50, last year starred in the popular Netflix series, which focused on her rise in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious home at 42 years old.
“The thing is, most people have all these barriers of what they can and can’t do. Religion trains you, if you don’t follow these steps you are going against God. It’s scary.
‘It was very difficult. I always felt that I had to be obedient and listen. I remember that no agent of change was ever popular.
She continued, “No one threw me in jail for asking for freedom. I believe in God now more than when I lived there. My life has been a series of miracles since I walked through that door.
“I get tens of thousands of DMs and letters telling me about what the show has done for their lives and how they’ve changed circumstances.”
Her story: Julia opened up about escaping her sheltered Jewish upbringing in her recently released memoir, Brazen, which was released on Tuesday
Haart then launched her own eponymous shoe collection and became the creative director of Italian luxury house La Perla after deciding to leave her Haredi community – where “women were to be seldom seen and never heard of” in 2013 – after 42 years.
She was born in Moscow, Russia, and emigrated to the United States with her parents when she was three years old.
When she was 11, they settled in Monsey, a suburb 35 miles north of New York with the largest population of Hasidic Jews in the United States outside of New York, with nearly half of Yiddish-speaking households. or Hebrew.
“We lived in the 1800s,” she previously told the Los Angeles Times of her Yeshivish background, explaining that modesty for women was paramount and access to outside information through television, radio or even newspapers were hard to find.
Nuptials: Haart married Yosef when she was 19, and she wrote in her book that she only met him a handful of times before their wedding
She also described a sexist worldview in which men studied Torah but not women “because her mind was not able to grasp it”.
She explained: “I was told, ‘The spirit of women is light’ – ‘nashim da’atan kalos’. Where I lived, women were rarely seen and never heard of.
“Our lives were governed by a web of modesty laws that required us not only to cover our bodies from head to toe, but also to behave comparatively. You grow up thinking you don’t matter at all.
But Haart’s interests always pushed beyond the limits of what was deemed acceptable.
She read a lot — from classic literature to fashion magazines she had to sneak into a nearby 7-Eleven.
In her book, Haart wrote that she “spent the first 42 years of my life in utter misery,” but admitted to The Times in a new interview that she deliberately “minimized” “the extent of her misery. “.
“I didn’t want to be a victim, did I? I didn’t want people to feel sorry for me,” she told them, while discussing the memoir.
At 16, she taught herself to sew and made her own modest versions of the clothes she saw in those magazines.
Haart got married when she was 19 to a man named Yosef Hendler, and she wrote in her book that she only met him a handful of times before they were married.
Difficult: She is currently embroiled in an ugly divorce battle with her second husband, Silvio Scaglia, CEO of Elite World Group (pictured together in 2017)
Together they had four children – Batsheva, Miriam, Shlomo and Aron – and they were brought up with the same religious upbringing.
Over time, Haart became increasingly depressed and she even began to think of ways to kill herself.
“The day came when I couldn’t take it anymore. I couldn’t stay a second longer,” she told the New York Post.
“You’re trapped in a life that isn’t yours. So it was either stay and die, or walk out the door.
She eventually decided that starving herself was the best course of action, as people would assume it was unintentional, an eating disorder – so her children wouldn’t bear the shame of their mother’s suicide. At just over five feet tall, she came down to 73 pounds.
Show: She starred in the popular Netflix series last year, which focused on her rise in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious home at 42
But seeing her daughter Miriam face the same struggles to comply as she did made her realize it was time to leave instead.
It took him years to get out of it – secretly selling insurance to save enough money to finally break free in 2012.
In 2013, she was already launching her own line of shoes after finding investors “in the craziest places”, including on a plane and in an ophthalmologist’s office.
“It really didn’t occur to me that I would fail, because I was so ignorant,” she said on her show.
She didn’t fail, however, and eventually landed a collaboration with La Perla. In 2016, she was the artistic director of the brand.
“43 years of my life have been stolen from me. I don’t have time,” she added.
In 2017, Haart designed Met Gala dresses for Kendall Jenner and Mary J. Blige, whom she accompanied to the A-list event.
As creative director, her designs have also been worn by stars such as Naomi Campbell, Anna Kendrick, Lily Collins, Lea Michele, Laure Dern, Padma Lakshmi and Kourtney Kardashian.
Now Haart wants to use her story to make a difference in the lives of other women who might be going through something similar.
Wow: She’s become a big name in the fashion world and in 2017 she designed Met Gala dresses for Jenner and Mary J. Blige (pictured with Anna Wintour)